Sexual Purity: SEX is not the problem.

Have you been chased by a mad dog before? If you have not, congratulations! Please do not pray to be chased by one. I was told that the scar on knee pit was as a result of been bitten by such a dog while I was a lot younger, I really do not have any memory of that but I do have the lingering memory of being chased by a trained dog in the house of a friend I went to visit at night.

One of the many days that I spent in primary school, a classmate, Juyin Adejugbagbe was absent from school because he was ill so I decided to play the good Samaritan by taking the assignment we were given that day to his house. His house was about a seven minutes’ walk from mine but I couldn’t leave my house until evening as I had to carry out some chores of mine. I remember clearly that by the time I got to his house it was dark. I knocked at their gate and waited for a reply which didn’t come, I was in a hurry to return home, so I knocked harder, there was still no reply but this time the gate opened on its own accord, so I stepped in (my first mistake)and headed towards the direction of their apartment carefully. I had been to his house before so I knew they had dogs, so I looked around briefly, since I couldn’t sight them I thought they were in their cages. I thought wrong!

As I finished my inspection and I was halfway up the walkway that led to their apartment, one of the dogs came charging towards me, I made my third mistake of the evening, I ran!
As I ran back towards the gate shouting, the dog pursued after me barking, I turned just in time as it wanted to go for the same spot I had been bitten before, choi! if you could see me then, I was literarily explaining myself to the dog,

“Pleaaaassseee, don’t bite me! Please!! I came to see Juyin, I came to give him his assignment! Juyin, Juyin!!!”
Are you laughing? I am too as I type but it wasn’t funny back then o, I was already beginning to drip water, and it was not just sweat. Lol!

The dog continued barking and jumping seeking for where to bite until Juyin’s Big Brother came to my aid. He simply called the name of the dog and it calmed. He walked towards me and side by side we walked to the house, I quickly gave the assignment that I needed to give. I remember that his mum gave me a pack of popcorn (or chin chin) as I left, and you can be sure I didn’t leave their parlour until I confirmed that the dogs have been restrained.

We already shared how sexual urge can make you encounter a richer relationship with God, if you have not read that, please do . We established that sexual urge in itself is not a bad thing and like the topic expressly spells out, sex is not the problem. So the question that follows is ‘what then is the problem?’

Sexual urge is not the problem, LUST is. So what exactly is lust?
The dictionary definition of lust is “1) intense or unrestrained sexual craving, or 2) an overwhelming desire or craving.” Does ‘unrestrained’ remind you of my dog experience? The dog I itself was a good dog, but when left to itself, it may overdo, same applies to our feelings. The feeling in itself is not a bad thing, but when it becomes unrestrained, the moment it becomes so overwhelming that it directs your decision, then lust has just taken control, and that is the enemy of sexual purity.
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You are walking on the streets and this fine girl passes, you tell your friend she is fine, okay. Then you go ahead to begin to feed your eyes on other parts of her body, lust! You are in a relationship with this guy and one day after spending the whole day together and it was time to go, you felt it wouldn’t be complete without a kiss, you wished he would kiss you. Thank God its still a wish. Switch at that point. But if you go ahead to walk to him and just plant the kiss, well that’s lust. Why? Because you allowed the craving go unrestrained. Have you ever felt like running away from home or throwing something really hard at a particular lecturer, you might even have been so hungry that you wished you could eat yam raw, did you do it? No. why? Restrain, you chose to restrain that feeling.

A major reason why lust is sexual purity’s enemy is because lust focuses on self. It focuses on fulfilling a legitimate need in an immature, wrongly timed and inappropriate way. Why do we have rape growing, it because of unrestrained sexual desire. Addiction to masturbation and pornography too is about satisfying a craving that should be left till later. No matter what anyone says o, masturbation and pornography are not part of God’s plan for our sexuality. They are an abuse to our sexuality as human beings.

Have you ever seen a chicken pursue another one during the process of mating? It can happen anywhere, because there is no restraint, but God has created us perfectly with the ability to restrain ourselves from yielding to our sexual urges whenever it comes calling! So if you are refusing to restrain your sexual urge, erm…does that make you a chicken?
Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust upon a girl(or guy).” Make the choice today!

So brothers and sisters please know that a sexually pure generation is possible, it begins with you!
Please join us as we celebrate world virginity day June 13th, 2015.
#nosum
#staysexuallypure

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