Why do we have to kill masturbation?
Does it have any effect on the person practicing it?
And in what ways can one be free from masturbation?
Masturbation is the self-stimulation of the genitals to achieve sexual arousal and pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm (sexual climax). It is commonly done by touching, stroking, or massaging the penis or clitoris until an orgasm is achieved. Some women also use stimulation of the vagina to masturbate or use ” sex toys,” such as a vibrator.
This act is very rampant these days especially among the youths.
The question then is why do people masturbate?
Some do it in order to relieve sexual tension, and some, to sleep or reduce stress.
These reasons might sounds appealing but in the real sense bad and sinful. God wants us to be holy with every part of our body, be it our eyes, heart, etc. Of course, masturbation can’t happen without feeding one’s eyes with pornography, meditating on sexual thoughts, or fantasying.
Masturbation in the real sense brings guilt, low self-esteem, depression, weakness and emotional imbalance. However, one can be be free from masturbation.
Let’s quickly go through the 3 simple ways to kill masturbation:
1. Be sincere with yourself by talking to God
That’s the first step you can take in order to be free from masturbation. There is no self righteousness that can save, only God can. The Bible says “God is just to forgive us all our sins”.
No matter how filthy one might be, the atoning blood of Jesus will perfectly cleanse.
Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, to obtain mercy, and find grace in time of need – Heb 4:16
There is mercy at the cross for those who will diligently and sincerely plead for it .
Don’t just confess your sins alone but be ready to forsake them totally.
Afterwards, you have to tap into the grace of God. Only His grace keeps on standing. When temptations arise as a flood of water, that grace will always be available for you to use.
His grace keeps you alert, watchful and prayerful. His grace makes you pray and read the Bible more as well.
2. Fleeing from all appearances of evil
To be totally free from masturbation, you have to do away with those things that trigger the lustful desire within you.
The romantic movies you watch, exotic novels you read, the worldly music you listen to, ungodly friends you keep and immoral pictures you look at must be avoided. You cannot continue to play with fire and not expect your fingers to burn.
What the eyes feed on has a great impact on the heart. To guide your heart with all diligence, you have to keep your eyes. Stop playing with Delilah, be awake.
Feed your heart with the word of God, rather than reading that novel that will make you go into the act again.
Why don’t you jump up from your bed when that feeling to masturbate comes. Be wiser than the devil. Resist him!
3. Be accountable
Have someone you are accountable to. Someone that can check up on your spiritual wellness. Someone you can easily tell your challenges and will be able to help you along. It must be someone who is spiritually matured than you.
Someone that can help you build up your Bible study life
Someone you can call a Spiritual mentor. Preferably, your mentor can be of the same sex as you, unless you are completely fine with someone of the opposite sex. The key thing is to ensure you are comfortable around the person enough to spill it all.
It might not be easy at first. You might fall back time and again in the long run, but you shouldn’t give up still. Keep pressing on till you attain victory.
Always remember that God’s grace is sufficient
Hope this was helpful?